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How do I bring up the topic of being "exclusive" with someone I'm currently hooking up with at Urban? When? Where? How?!
Bringing up the topic of becoming exclusive can be an extremely vulnerable conversation which can be scary, especially if you are worried that this person might not feel the same way as you. I would recommend the next time you are about to hook up, talk about it first. You could ask them how things are going for them and say that it’s something you’ve been thinking about for some time now. Ask them if they’ve thought about it too, that way the conversation is more of an open dialogue and you allow your partner to feel heard while you are also able to voice your opinion. Or you could wait until right after you guys hook up and maybe say something like “so I really like how this is going… how are you feeling about it?” and then maybe “how would you feel about being exclusive?” I know it’s really scary but it’s honestly better knowing sooner rather than later if you’re starting to catch feelings for this person.
The most important thing is that if they say no, respect that and then do what’s best for you. If it feels hard to hook up with them when they aren’t feeling the same way, think about breaking it off. You don’t want to be in a situation that will hurt you.